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Should I Divorce My Husband?

Postby Elya » Thu Sep 28, 2017 2:08 am

I have been married 3 years. I absolutely love my husband and can't imagine my life without him. Heres the problem, he's been out of work for the past four and a half years due to certain law issues. So he says. When I first met him he had a job and ambition. Now I feel that's fallen to the wayside. He has no motivation.


He pays his half of the bills on time, but he never has enough left over to take me out on dates.
he says he's looking for a job, but he would have found one by now if he was looking hard. If I want to go on vacation with him I have to pay for the majority of it. And we have pets together and I have to pay their bills for the vet. All the odds and ends you need for life such as body wash, dish soap, ect. I pay for.


He says he wants to open a bar next year so there's a shred of a goal left. But it's unrealistic, simply because If he doesn't have money I take me to Denny's, how is he going to save the money for a bar next year. And he can't get a loan since his credit is horrible.


I'm just so frusterated with him. I don't want to be a stay at home wife, but it would be nice to be taken care of once in a while. On top of all that our sex life is definatley lacking. I don't want to have sex with someone that doesn't even want to try.
His lack of motivation is turning me off and I'm starting to resent him.


Should I wait for him to try and get his motivation back and to get a job? Or should I just divorce him because he's not going to get any better? Since I've been waiting for him to get his act together for five years now. Should I put a time limit on how long I want him to get his motivation and if he doesn't leave him? Should I give him an utlimatim? I'm confused and frusterated, help!
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Should I Divorce My Husband?

Postby Elisheva » Fri Sep 29, 2017 9:08 am

The thing about ultimatums is they can usually backfire. Try sitting down and talking it out first to see exactly where his state of mind is at. Though if you've been waiting for five years for him to get it together, chances are he'll never get it together unless you walk out the door and show him you mean business.
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Should I Divorce My Husband?

Postby Reynaldo » Mon Oct 02, 2017 7:08 pm

I say money is not every thing, my hubby works13hrs a day 7days a week and we still don't have any money left over. We don't get to hang out and do everything we want either. Be happy he let's you work and you get to see him.and i think you should find him a job, i know it's like taken him by his hand, but maybe he needs it..best of luck, o and i say the house better be clean and dinner done when you get home ...right on
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Should I Divorce My Husband?

Postby Brodee » Wed Oct 11, 2017 4:41 am

A serious discussion of all your issues relating to this..think about this long and hard..seek a counselor for advise.
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