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My mom has cancer, and i need help please!!!?

Postby watford » Thu Aug 11, 2011 3:43 pm

Hey everyone, my names brandon and im 17 years old, my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, and cervical cancer in 2009, im growing sadder and sadder everyday, i love my mom so much to see her suffer, if any one can help me please comment, i need help with anything, she lost her job 3 months after being diagnosed and currently has no HEALTHCARE, OR HEALTH INSURANCE, so whatever the surgeries cost
one costs over 50,000$ and were in debt
please comment with suggestions
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Postby eleder » Thu Aug 11, 2011 3:52 pm

You should be eligible for your state's "high risk insurance pool" for health insurance. Has your family looked into that option? She should also be SSDI - social security disability and medicare.

I am very sorry for what you are going through. I do not wish to cause you pain, but the cancer has metastasized (spread throughout the body). It is Stage IV. Your mother is going to die. I am very, very, very sorry that this is so.

My sister has lung cancer, so I really do know what you are going through. Hers has also metastasized -- it started with oral cancer, and she had a surgery to remove her lower jaw and large portions through her neck. She uses a feeding port in her stomach to eat, and her nose no longer works. She has a lump in her lung which is getting larger. While I am heartbroken, I know that she is in tremendous physical and emotional pain, and it is not going to get better. It is going to continue to get worse. While I selfishly want to keep her here with me, and it will hurt me to have to let her go, I know that she must win free of her pain.

There comes a point in such a journey where death becomes a respite from pain.

I understand that you do not want to give up hope. But, if hope has given you up, please try to be happy for your mother that she will finally be free of the pain. She has led a good life. She has an absolutely wonderful son who loves her VERY, VERY, VERY MUCH, and there is no greater gift that a son can give his mother.

It is part of the natural rhythm of our existence that we are born, we live and we die. Doctors will keep cutting and charging you money as long as you keep saying you want it, but in the end, doctors don't have superpowers. When cancer has taken hold, they can only hold back the tide for so long.

Love your mother for as long as you have her. Be thankful for the time that you have had with her. And, when she does go, be happy for her that she is free from the pain. More $50,000 surgeries are not going to change the outcome, as sad as I am to say it. It may give her a little more time, but at the cost of great pain, and financial devastation to the family that she loves.

If the hospital has offered you the opportunity for counselling, please give it a try. I have used counselling at difficult periods of my life, such as when my own father was dying of lung cancer. It really does help.

I am so very sorry for what your family is going through.
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Postby wokaihwokomas92 » Thu Aug 11, 2011 3:56 pm

Brandon. Im sorry to hear your Mother is so sick with a terrible disease. As far as insurance, check with the state. If she lost her coverage after losing her job, state benefits may be able to help. I know you and your family may not want to go that route, but if your family has paid in to the system for years and years you may as well get something back. A case worker at the hospital should be able to help with that. I hope things improve for you and your family, and that your Mother's condition improves.
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Postby emlyn » Thu Aug 11, 2011 4:00 pm

Hi Brandon,
I'm sorry for your mothers situation. I lost my mom to cancer several years ago, but I was older than you.
Depending where you live, I would go to your local hospital or hospic to see if any support groups are available for you to join. Believe me, when you listen to others who are going thru similar situations; they can offer suggestions for the other members to use.
You are smart in asking for help now, to be better prepaired later on . . .

Consult your pastor, priest or rabbi.
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Postby emile » Thu Aug 11, 2011 4:06 pm

Sorry to hear your sad story continue praying... I am not sure which state you are from but there should be free medical insurance offered you would have to speak to a social worker at the hospital they know all sorts of short cuts when it comes to medical insurance... I know it will be hard cuz your mom is already diagnosed but its worth a try. I hope things get better...

you should try googling free or cheap medical insurance the premium might be a little high but again its worth a try.
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