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Married At Eighteen, Good Or Bad Idea?

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Married At Eighteen, Good Or Bad Idea?

Postby Shattuck » Fri May 19, 2017 7:34 pm

I have been with my boyfriend a little over a year, he's a little bit older than me. I turn 17 in four months. We plan to marry the summer of 2015. He has proposed, and I said yes. Is this dumb of us? We love each other. We want a family together, but my family and friends cannot know about him until my eighteenth birthday. He is 22.. We are not sexually involved and that'll wait till we are married. thoughts?
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Postby placido » Sat May 20, 2017 11:38 am

Its an absolutely terrible idea.

The human brain doesn't finish developing until you're in your mid 20's, and that means your personality isn't complete until then, so if you marry early, you're more likely to end up divorced.

AND, couples who don't have sex with each other BEFORE they get married, tend to have more sexual problems within their marriage, which in turn, cause the marriage to fail. Never marry someone, unless you're already having fantastic sex with them. There would be little worse than discovering that you're not sexually compatible.
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Postby Greipr » Sun May 21, 2017 11:21 am

If your 22 year old DH has a job, is mature and is independent, I would say, it could work. If your 22 year old DH on the other hand, is in college and still living in his parent's basement, then I would say think TWICE.
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Postby ahsalom » Mon May 22, 2017 9:59 am

Well, one thing I can say is that you are one person at 16, another person at 18, another at 21 and another at 25.
Then once you reach that age, the changes are less drastic, they come at 30, 35, 40, 50.
So, what I'm saying is that who you are right now will be a great difference from who you are in one year.
I don't think it's a good idea.
I'd ask you to wait until you turn 21.
And the fact that you are hiding now just reinforces what I feel, that you aren't mature enough.
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Postby Devlin » Mon May 22, 2017 12:28 pm

Im 18 and my bf is 20. Wr have been griends for two years before we started dating abd fell so deep in love. I asked him to marry me. Thing is, why rush? Why do it now? Why not go to college and beconr financially stable first? Why not wait? Your still young. I would wait a while, just in case you know. Enjoy the youth and have fun.
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Postby Adao » Tue May 23, 2017 9:50 pm

If you think you can swing it..Go for it.Being married young isn't 'bad'.But think everything through before you go ahead and get married.make sure you are ready.I wish ya'll the best.
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Postby Efren » Wed May 24, 2017 12:16 am

"I turn 17 in four months."

This is your weaselly, childish way of saying you are only 16? And that he was dating you when you were 15?

It fools no one.
It proves you are a dishonest child.

Your boyfriend is 22! And he was dating you when you were 15! I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but normal, healthy 22 year olds do NOT want to date 15 year olds! It would be like you dating a 12 year old.
You would never do it.
If one of your friends did it, you would be pissed off at them.

But your post already proves that you are dishonest (hiding your boyfriend, hiding how old you were when you started dating him) and deluded, so I'm sure you will happily ruin your life with this pervy monster.
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Postby Juan » Wed May 24, 2017 11:00 pm

Loving each other is not enough as a basis for marriage and family.
In the real world, you have to be able to pay your bills.
Many marriages split up due to fights over money.
So if you want to increase your chances of living together happily till death do you part, do it the smart way.
Get your educations and careers organised first.
And I don't mean a part-time job at the local Burger King.
I mean a college degree and a real career.
For both of you.
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Postby Garth » Sun May 28, 2017 4:26 am

HEY,

Listen to your heart.. not to this or any other answer.. do you think you should get married at 18??

do you think you can handle it.. can you take it?? do u really love him?? does he really love you??

can you give him an amazing future?? can he do the same?? do you think you mature enough to get married so early?? ask your self.. Think!

Both of you love each other now.. but what about 5 years later??

Think!

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Are you ready to finish an 8 hour shift, shop for groceries enroute, go home, start the laundry, make supper, do some dishes, do a little yard work, and pick up the house before bed? Really? Everyday?! Are you ready to stop hanging out with friends and family on Saturday night? how about Christmas Day? You will have a husband of your own, and it will be time to make your own Holiday traditions..

Love doesn't pay the rent, it doesn't buy groceries, pay for insurance, or pay your taxes. Love DOES accept the imperfections in others, it does forgive, help, and take a stand to strengthen the couple. Nobody told you that Marriage is damned hard work.

But its your life. Your choices. Your wishes.


If u know hes the one than might as well not wait.

but u could wait until 2016.

Finish your education and then get married..

I thnk you should tell your parents about him.. its easier for them that way.. they can give you their opinion about things..

:) :D

hope i helped..

its your life take your own decisions.. but listen to your heart
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