by Kenji » Wed May 24, 2017 10:43 am
While this event isn't praise-worthy, it seems that you have your minds made up & are trying your best given the circumstances.
As a mother, I would hate to find out about this via text, so as hard as it will certainly be, you will have to talk face to face with her.
She will probably be sad/mad/frustrated/disappointed, but in the end, she will come to terms with it.
You will have to be honest with her, and try your best to put yourself in her shoes.
As for your Dad, I would also not tell him via text.
Once you tell your Mom & she calms down a bit, let her decide what to do about him.
His parents should find out about this from him, because you might be facing a very unexpected reaction.
As for the part you said about not relying on your parents, I'm sorry to say that you ARE relying on them, because you did say that you would be living with them.
In other words, they will be subsidizing your new family life. If you guys had to do this alone, do you honestly think you would be able to pay for rent/car insurance/healthcare/food/entertainment, etc., on your own? I'm assuming that you are both covered under your parents' insurance, so again, you ARE relying on them.
And what exactly is your BF going to do while you are @ school, whether it's going to take actual classes, or doing it on-line.
Is he going to work? If so, who is taking care of the baby @ that time? If you are doing it on-line & your BF is away @ work, you will be very, very tired & stressed out.
Believe me, you both sound well-meaning, but the truth is you are very young & inexperienced.
Even with older people, the stress of a situation like yours would likely cause friction between you as a couple and/or with your parents & in-laws.
Your BF is really a kid, in "guy" years, so it wouldn't be that surprising if over time, he got tired of having to grow up a lot faster than he was supposed to.
I don't mean to be mean, but again, as a parent with years of life experience, I just wanted to paint as realistic a picture as possible for you.
I wish you a lot of luck, because you will honestly need it.