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How Do My Boyfriend And I Tell People Were Pregnant?

Postby Erin » Wed May 17, 2017 6:01 pm

The people that we are worried about telling is both our moms and dads, and my grandma. My grandma is very old fashioned. My mom is very unpredictable, you never know what she's going to do, she is not rational. I honestly have no clue what my dad will say, I know he's not like the hitting type or screaming, but I'm afraid what he will say. I'm 16, I'll be 17 in three months and my boyfriend just turned 18. Were four months pregnant. We have a plan that I think will work. I know we can be good parents to our baby together. We both do online schooling, he is a senior this year. I'm supposed to be a junior but I am graduating a year early so I'm graduating this year with him. After high school I'm going to go to a four year college during the school year and he's going to go to college during the summer. When we can't watch the baby we know our family will, they would beg to. But we are not relying on them. We both have jobs. We have enough money together to support our baby, all we need from our parents is a place to live. But we were planning on asking them if we can stay at his house for a few days then my house for a few days, back and fourth, we were also going to pay our families for letting us live with them and help out a lot around the house and cooking and such. I think our families would be okay with that especially his because they are really understanding and supportive. But my parents I think they will be mean until they get use to the idea of me having a baby. I understand why our parents would be upset, but there's no going back now, what's done is done. We can't take it back. All we can do is try our best and be good parents. And for anyone that's going to be leaving rude comments, there's nothing to be rude about. My boyfriend and I are doing the right thing, we aren't being selfish we are doing everything we need to do for this baby. So how should I tell my mom? Should I tell her first and just get it over with? Should I text her or should I just do it in person? How should I tell my dad? Text him? or should I ask my mom to tell him. With my grandma I'll probably have my mom tell her. My grandma would be able to accept it better from her. I'm not as scared about telling his parents, but how should we do it? just sit down together and say it?
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How Do My Boyfriend And I Tell People Were Pregnant?

Postby Claiborne » Thu May 18, 2017 1:48 am

You should have thought about that before you got knocked up.

Why are you asking people for help anyways. You were stupid enough to get pregnant, so you sort out your own stupid mess.
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How Do My Boyfriend And I Tell People Were Pregnant?

Postby suttecliff » Fri May 19, 2017 5:28 pm

I wrote my mom a letter and locked it in her car.... haha I suggest you sit down with your mom and dad together and announce your news. I would expect your mom to be irate. But dont let it over whelm you. She will calm down. Like you said, takes some time accepting the reality of things. Especially with her daughter having a kid when shes not yet finished with school.


You have a great plan put together. At the end of the day only rely on yourself in hope that your man will be who you need him to be. It all sounds great when we piece our plans together, but they dont always go as we had hoped.


I wish you tons of luck and great blessings!!! I was a teen mommy too, I know you'll do just fine.
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How Do My Boyfriend And I Tell People Were Pregnant?

Postby loritz » Sat May 20, 2017 9:54 am

Trust and beleive it isn't going to work out the way you think it is, you may think that's how everything is going to go but chances are it isn't; No teen parents have it that easy because if it was that easy then every girl would have a baby at a young age and successful at the same time. It is good for you that you do have a nice plane! I hope all goes well for you but i still think you're kinda, over thinking things...Anyways i think that you should just tell them! She's going to find out sooner or later...You decided to have sex and now here's your consequence..
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Postby Joselito » Sun May 21, 2017 5:32 pm

You should definately do it in person. Let her know that you need her more now than ever. Just explain to her that you can't, don't want to do this without her. Tell her how important it is that she support you through this. I think that should put her in the mindset to accept this and maybe even get excited about it. Idk. It's different with every mom. Definitely tell her face to face. My son just popped in and said "she's pregnant! I'm excited!" The other day. Lol
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Postby Kenji » Wed May 24, 2017 10:43 am

While this event isn't praise-worthy, it seems that you have your minds made up & are trying your best given the circumstances.
As a mother, I would hate to find out about this via text, so as hard as it will certainly be, you will have to talk face to face with her.
She will probably be sad/mad/frustrated/disappointed, but in the end, she will come to terms with it.
You will have to be honest with her, and try your best to put yourself in her shoes.
As for your Dad, I would also not tell him via text.
Once you tell your Mom & she calms down a bit, let her decide what to do about him.
His parents should find out about this from him, because you might be facing a very unexpected reaction.
As for the part you said about not relying on your parents, I'm sorry to say that you ARE relying on them, because you did say that you would be living with them.
In other words, they will be subsidizing your new family life. If you guys had to do this alone, do you honestly think you would be able to pay for rent/car insurance/healthcare/food/entertainment, etc., on your own? I'm assuming that you are both covered under your parents' insurance, so again, you ARE relying on them.
And what exactly is your BF going to do while you are @ school, whether it's going to take actual classes, or doing it on-line.
Is he going to work? If so, who is taking care of the baby @ that time? If you are doing it on-line & your BF is away @ work, you will be very, very tired & stressed out.
Believe me, you both sound well-meaning, but the truth is you are very young & inexperienced.
Even with older people, the stress of a situation like yours would likely cause friction between you as a couple and/or with your parents & in-laws.
Your BF is really a kid, in "guy" years, so it wouldn't be that surprising if over time, he got tired of having to grow up a lot faster than he was supposed to.
I don't mean to be mean, but again, as a parent with years of life experience, I just wanted to paint as realistic a picture as possible for you.
I wish you a lot of luck, because you will honestly need it.
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