Well here's the facts, my fiance and I are are both 21 and 24 and we're both full-time college students and work full-time, he even bought our place and a new car ('09 Malibu) for us (since his '94 Thunderbird clunked out months ago). It seems like even though my mom sees everything he does, she constantly throws her contributions in my face.
What I mean by "contributions" is the fact that she loves to point out how much her and my dad have spent on the reception and she even goes as far as to say that its HER wedding. To be clear, my fiance paid for the ceremony venue at our church, the flowers, my wedding dress, the invitations, the photographer, etc. and my parents paid for the reception, the DJ, and the cake.
However, my mom loves to point out that she believes I'm a user and she tells my dad that he's being manipulated with whatever I want and that's far from true. Then, she says that my fiance is deceitful and she can't wait until it "blows up in my face". But, when I ask her to explain to me what she feels is so wrong about him, she gets frustrated and walks away. They've never had any issues between them and he's always been respectful to her and has done whatever she wants.
Even though my father doesn't listen to her (and no one else does either) I feel like I want to be removed from their life insurance/beneficiary policy plans just to PROVE how wrong she is. She is convinced that all I care about is their money, when she knows that is far from true. I constantly feel like she hopes we crash and burn as a couple.
I do talk to my fiance about what she says and he helps me to feel better, but I just don't know where else to turn for more advice. I feel like she's giving me her approval one minute and then taking it away the moment she gets mad at me about anything. She says she likes him one minute and then she talks about us behind our backs. She has even tried to degrade what his field of study is to make him switch to law school (he's studying for a Bachelor in Accountancy).
She recently told my dad that my fiance and I are making a mistake getting married (we've been dating two years), even though her and my father got married at 18!! Whenever my dad tries to say anything to defend me, she makes him feel guilty and tells him that THEIR success is based on her alone!! Although, I haven't seen her work since I was born, my father has always been the bread winner.
Help me! what should I do?