I really hate my father...all he does is gamble and he comes home always angry. He's been like this since I could remember. He never helps my mom with the bills he only pays for the phone and car insurance but thats it. I have never once in my 19 years of life had a conversation with him more than 1 min. For instance yesterday I saw a bottle and gum wrappers which he put in the hallway outside his room on purpose. I think to myself there is no way I'm going to pick up after him. So when he was not home I put it back in his room. So tonight he comes home and kicks it into the hallway again. So I got pissed and yelled at him and said why don't you throw that in the trash. He told me he was testing me and my mother who will throw it away. He says because hes my father if he throws trash out his room I should throw it away, he says it's my duty to clean up after him. Ok I understand if you ask me politely to throw something away but why the **** are you testing me if I'm going to throw trash which you purposely put outside your door ******* dumb ***. And when he get sick he acts all nice and **** and then when he is fine again he acts like an asshole again. My brother and sisters always try to invite him out to eat dinner, or for instance my sister is going to get married soon and he never shows up or says hes not going to a dinner with the other family. He just is a very angry person and dosen't give a **** about anyone about himself. And don't say I should be glad I have a father in my life because no, why would you want someone who dosen't even talk to you and is never home. I don't respect him, when he is in my presence my stomach just turns and i get very angry and annoyed. He dose so many other things that leads me to hate him but if I told you about them it would maybe take 100 pages to talk about. Sorry if you think this is stupid but I just needed to vent.

i definitely understand feeling that way towards a parent.my dad isn't like yours,but he's done certain things that just really tick me off and hurt my feelings. and i've felt genuine hatred before. i wouldn't even know how to advise you to help better that relationship because i've never heard of a dad acting like that. i guess i would just have to say to steer clear of him as often as you can. i won't tell you that you should be glad you have a dad, because that's not a good relationship that you have. if you think a heart-to-heart talk with him would help,then i'd go for it.like ask why he acts the way he does, and that it really makes you mad.but if you don't think it will help at all,then i wouldn't bother.i know the feeling of wasting my time trying to make a parent understand something, and it sucks. otherwise, i'd say just to stay away from him.
hope this helped

Hi Naruto,

I read you whole vent, I just want to say sorry that your father seems so disappointing. It really sucks when you need that person to be everything you need and they don't come through, not even close.

I guess on the flipside, it sounds like you have a nice mom, some brother and sisters and you'll be getting a new brother-in-law soon. I only have one brother, wish I had more or sisters or something. We have a small family and I always wish there were more of us.

Anyway, hope your father has some kind of epiphany or someone does an intervention or something. You don't deserve inappropriate behavior like that. It sounds at least like your mother raised you right and you know the difference between decency and indecency. Some people with awful parents just can't help but become awful people. But that's not happened to you, thank God, right?

Take care of yourself, and someday you can move out and when your Dad misses you, maybe that'll be the kick he needs to appreciate and show love to you more.

You have every right to be angry and upset with the way he treats you and your mother. I hope that you have enough courage to talk to you mom about how you feel and let her know that you feel she deserve to be treat better. I realize that she has put up with the way your dad has been for many years but if she knows how you and your siblings feel she will be more willing to make changes. She may also feel guilty for everything your dad has put the family through, she may be placing the blame on herself instead of your dad. You will probably have to let her know that you dont blame her and that the things that happened were not her fault. It sometimes take a child to voice their concerns before anything is done about the abuse that is happening. Try to be understanding about the situation because most people who are in a abusive relationship blame themself for what they go through. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK AND GOD BLESS.