My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year now, at the time we met he was seperated and has since filed for divorce. Actually everything has been great, except for one thing, his ex wife that he can't seem to cut the apron string with. She suffered from bipolar disorder/depression and never worked.
She literally spent all of their savings while he was working overseas, left bills unpaid, and left him with a huge pile of debt. She is the one who filed for divorce (was her second marriage) .
She currently lives out of state because she had a job lined up that she never took, and depends on my boyfriend to help her pay the rent , the car payment, has her, her adult daughter (his step daughter) and their 9 year old son on HIS health insurance, and still pays the "family" cell phone bill. I mean, how can you move to the most expensive area in the US (Los angeles) and expect to live without a job? Wants to send her daughter to college but never saved for her, with all the money she spent over the years.
I told him that this has to stop, she can not be enabled the rest of her life? She wanted the divorce, so she needs to stand on her own two feet, yet uses the son as a form of manipulation.
He said slowly this would all disappear, but it?s almost a year later? How can I date someone who is basically supporting his ex this way? Am I selfish to think this, or does anyone else think this is inapproriate? He really should be only concerned with taking care of his son.